I recently had my first night in over 60 days without a little boy in my care. I was overdue for a break. I could feel it.
Now that it's spring break, he is with Grammy and Grammy, and I'm so grateful!
I mean, wow. I needed this!
Here is what I learned this time.
Usually, the first day or two after I'm at home with me, myself and I, I sit in the chair and cry for half a day.
Sounds dramatic, I know. It took me a few years to figure out what was going on.
At first, I was really annoyed by it because, when I do get a break, I have all these projects I want to do.
When that incredibly sweet little boy is here with me, I am always "on." Always in the mode for what is next and what he needs and so on.
So when he is gone, my body says, "Ahhh. Please take a rest, Amanda. Sit right down. Just relax and let your thoughts settle. You have much within you that you have not been seeing in your whirlwind. Come. Settle down and reflect."
Yeah, and cry my eyes out. Or sometimes just stare blankly and let the visions come.
It really took years of getting stuck in my chair to figure out that that is what I was supposed to be doing. My body would not let me do a project because I finally had the time to look inward and clear my soul. Apparently that was more pressing.
That went on for quite some time, and I accepted it. I even got to the point where I expect that to happen.
So after this latest timespan without time to really settle, I expected it to happen again.
But it did not.
I have been able to move freely about the cabin and work on projects that excite me. It's amazing!!!
Do you know what this means?
It means that I have scrubbed my soul so much that I am in a good place. I no longer put unrealistic expectations on myself. I am gentle on myself when I used to be hard. I say yes to the things I actually want to do and don't just commit out of guilt. I have curtailed relationships that exhausted me. I have also turned my relationship with my son into us as a magnificent duo instead of a ball and chain.
I also try to take the time, when he is with me, to meditate and assess where I'm at.
I suppose it's working.
The fact that I did not have to cease activity in order to figure out what parts of my life I was ignoring is pretty huge. I'm so grateful for that, and I wanted to share it with you!
I still have plenty to strive for, especially career-wise, but I feel like I'm taking steps in the right direction.
Consciously clearing out things in my life that made me feel like a victim on any level was one of the best things I have done for myself lately.
I guess I wanted to tell you this, so you can see that any or all of the efforts you put in to peeling away at the happiness of your heart makes a difference.
The acknowledgement of our feelings and emotions is constant, but the energy it takes to reel us out can become less and less once we have a handle on how to deal with them in a positive way.
It's not easy -- especially at first. But, man, it's so worth it!
This is the gist of what my next book is about by the way... whenever I get the time to keep writing it! Wish me luck!